Good morning everyone! This is the first day of my Turkey Day break, and I have some "extra" time, and thought I'd drop a note. First update: school. Everyone, please send some positive energy my way ~ I am getting 2 C's right now. I have had one college C, back in the 90's, in a math class. This is particularly traumatizing for me. But, I am also coming to accept that whatever happens, happens. I am going to continue doing my best, and accept whatever, well, happens. Because I haven't used that word enough in this post so far! ;-)

Anyway, they are both 400-level philosophy courses, and while I have a double major, psychology is the discipline I am going after for my Masters program. I have never taken anything like either of them before, one is metaphysics and the other is a political science philosophy class. So, I am challenging myself, plus with my other 4 classes......good grief. I have found my limit, doing all these classes and working 30 hours a week, and my kids......And I am so glad this semester is over in 4 weeks. Next semester, my last undergraduate semester (HOLY COW!) will be so much easier. Only 4 classes, only 1 philosophy class (soooo much reading and writing involved, and right now I have 3!), and 2 classes from the same instructor who is very easy ~ I had her last semester. Then my capstones class, which is required.

A couple weeks ago, I took my GRE's. Don't have the official results yet, but I am pretty sure I qualified for the Masters program I am applying for. I have all three of my letters of recommendation in my possession. I have applied to the graduate school already. I will apply to the counseling school when my GRE results come in. And I already have my personal statement ready to go! My packet has to be in by Feb. 15 - yes, I started early. As long as they have all the required stuff, I get the interview. I am strong in person, in interviews, so as long as I have all my ducks in a row, I have a good chance. Only about 10 people get in each year. But my psych advisor says I have a good chance, with my research experience, presenting a poster in Canada, my internship, my grades, my club involvements, etc. He said I've had an optimum college experience, taken advantage of all the opportunities.

Other than my 2 C's, everything else in school is going according to plan. I have already registered and secured my courses for my final semester. My financial aide is already done. Cruising right along.

Kids: both are doing great. DS16 is going to the regular high school now, and he is excelling. Just went to conferences, and over and over I hear what a great kid he is (which I already knew). He is getting 4 A's and 4 B's, as opposed to flunking out of a school he apparently didn't want to go to. He's like his father, his mouth says one thing, but his actions say another. Very strange to me. But, at least I am starting to figure it out, and I think he is beginning to realize it. Better now than when he's 36 and married with two kids....

DS15 (well, he'll be 15 this Saturday) is doing great at DS16's former technical charter high school. Where DS16 didn't like the smallness of it (200 kids for a 4 year high school), DS15 is thriving. No bullying, no name calling. Lots of teacher attention. His grades are similar to DS16's, and he seems happy. We just got him a new accoustic guitar for his birthday, and he is getting sooo good at playing. I can't believe it. All the lessons are paying off!

Work: Going well. Kinda dated the guy from there that I thought I was just going to be friends with. Yeah, that's not going to work out romantically. In some ways he is really compatible with me, but in other important ways, no. Like, he believes that things don't normally go well for him, things don't work out for him, he seems to always get the short end of all sticks. I believe that as long as he believes that, it will continue proving itself true in his life. He lets these fears restrict him so much, his life is very very small. Nice guy, good friend, but not for me. We have maintained our friendship, though.

Another work thing coming up is that my schedule is going to have to change for the first time since I started there about 9 months ago. Next semester, I have 2 night classes - when you get down to the last semester, you just have to take the classes when they are offered! So, my custody schedule is changing from me having them Mon Wed, to X having them Mon Wed. Everything else will stay the same. Which means I need to work during the day on Mon Wed Fri, while the kids are at school and I have no classes. Which will be awesome, because then I don't have to work until 11 pm twice a week, nor will I have to work 27 hours every-other weekend when X has the boys - just 16 hours every-other weekend.

Wow, I might actually be able to *gasp* go on a date!!! So, I am meeting with my supervisor's supervisor to find out if the company has a place for me. If not, I will need to find another job. A pain, but do-able. I really attempt to not resist the Universe anymore. I still do in some ways, but in these other ways I just trust, and it all works out. Amazing. I do like the job, though, and think I would like to stay, but....again, no resistance.

Roomie: We have been having some challenges. She has had her BF spend the night a few times when the boys are here, after she'd agreed not to several times. I had to call her on it the other day. He is still living with his grandparents and she cannot spend the night over there, because they don't approve. I have a hard time liking this guy, because of many "misunderstandings" and such. I don't have the rose-colored glasses of feeling like I'm in love with him, like she does. She claims to be completely in love with him. Since I have known her just over a year, she has been in love with three different men. Maybe because I know so much about the chemistry of love, or co-dependency, or whatever, much of the mystery is gone for me. Maybe I just need to feel it again some day, dunno.

What I do know is that this guy keeps popping up whenever we go out, and she is miffed ~ she thinks I don't show him kindness. I think she sets us both up for failure by not talking with me about it before inviting him along. She also thinks I am trying to take over or control our Turkey Day dinner. That hit me from left field. I am almost wondering if she is trying to find reasons to be mad at me. I'm not charging her rent for December, she is really struggling financially. Maybe she is looking to move in with this guy so she can go back to school. I dunno. This is the only area I have found where my beloved roomie says one thing, and yet does another ~ consistently. Her achilles heal.

I am her only surviving girl friend. I think she gets so into the men in her life, she loses sight of everything else. Last night she wrote to me that she just cannot help herself. Which is why I'm still single. I have to be by myself alone long enough to get to know myself, so I don't do what she seems to be doing. I want to keep my life next time I fall in love. I want to keep my friends, my interests, MYSELF. I don't understand why a relationship with a man needs to be so.....overwhelming? Overpowering? Like, why can't it be just like a same-sex friendship, in that you enjoy that person, as well as all the other people in your life? Not to exclusion?

Anyway, I am kinda preparing myself for her to move out. I knew she wouldn't stay. I think the Universe knew when X left that I wasn't ready to be on my own, and provided me with exactly what I needed when I needed it. I do feel that I am ready to be on my own now. I am ready to have my home back to myself. I don't mind roomie, but her BF is always here, and it makes me feel restricted. Right now, I work and go to school so much, and he isn't here when the boys are here, so it's not too big a deal. But next semester, I will be home much more. End of December, in fact, I will be home much more. I am trying not to become attached to any particular outcome. I can't envision myself asking roomie to leave before she is ready. And I want to keep our friendship through these uncomfortable times.

For my part, I have finally come to realize that she is going to invite him along without asking me. So, I'm not going out anymore, because I dislike it that much. I also have enforced my boundaries about him being here with the boys, and she seems receptive to that. But other than that, I could take anything or leave anything at this point. I had a conversation with the Universe about it today, just for it to do what I need next, and I will do my best to not resist.

I am feeling anticipation for something. I do feel intuitively that something is coming my way. Not sure if it is just a change, like roomie moving out, or if a R is on the way, or what. But something.......

Ugh, relationships: Um, I'm not ready yet and/or the right person hasn't come along yet. It is either one or all of these things. I have dabbled here and there, I love kissing. I feel like I am turbo-ing through what would have been my 20's if I hadn't been married with babies already. Getting a feel for the human condition, really. Understanding about looks and socio-economic and education and expectation and old patterns and pick-up lines and all that good stuff. When I first became single, it was so self-affirming when men would approach me. Now, it is old. Now, it is irritating. I have come to realize that I am a pretty hot commodity, and looks are not my problem. Sitting back and waiting for the Universe to bring me someone of quality is my issue ~ patience. Patience is a lesson that is never "learned." Because whenever I get to some patience goal, something else comes along to challenge me in the same way. It is awesome. And consistent. Which is what makes it awesome.

I have thought about opening myself up emotionally at this point, and the concept seems laughable right now. But, because it seems laughable probably means it is something that needs to be done. We'll see. I have put out a very particular request of what I think I want. Things that over the past year have proved important to me.

Final update, X: We seem to have settled into a very nice, minimal contact, proactive cooperative parenting routine. Our interactions are pleasant, often humorous, the kids seem to be very happy. We have been able to keep certain family jokes alive and well, and created new ones that are specific to divorce. Like, I always encourage them to eat all their father's food before they come to my house. I tell them as long as it is medical, I don't care if they get hurt because their father has to pay for it (I realize as I write that it doesn't sound very funny, but it is here in person, for some reason). The other night we both went with DS15 to pick out his new guitar, and the staff in the store was commenting on how fun we were and how awesome we were. Don't know if they knew we were divorced, but we were all joking around. Just makes it that much more fun, and the kids really enjoy the good-natured bantering. X also went ice skating with us, because I didn't have a way to fit 9 teenagers in my Cavalier. I wanted to borrow his van, but he just came along. It was OK. The first time I think I saw regret in his eye. Just as we all predicted ~ when I don't care anymore, he will.

And while there is still energy between us, it is energy I know I will not touch. He is not what I want in my life like that. I want someone who knows themselves at least as well as I know myself. I want someone whose words and actions match, for the most part - at least as well as mine match up. Not with huge gaping hurtful chasms. I want a man with values and beliefs and a strong sense of himself. Not someone who changes each time the wind does.

Basically, my thinking has finally come around. X left at the end of August, over a year ago. And it has taken me this long to get my head back on straight again. For a year, I believed that I was the big loser, that him and CW must have had some great love that transcended blah blah blah, that they would live happily ever after and that I wasn't, apparently because I was a loser and not good enough and yadda yadda yadda. Good grief! And it all seems so clear to me now. Him and CW are not together. He left that job in a state of mental breakdown. He has few friends, certainly nobody who can say they understand him (because I don't think he understands himself). He still says he's going to do some things and he does different, his words and actions still do not match up. When we were ice skating the other day, I just wanted to skate the whole time, and have minimal contact, because I wasn't sure how it would affect me long-term (didn't affect me negatively! Yay!) but alas my skates hurt and I stopped skating the last 30 minutes of the party. And X just followed me around everywhere. When we were having a quiet moment, which I was OK with while watching DS16 skate through the plexiglass, he felt the urge to fill the silence with words. So, he starts talking about his old job! How he thought their new project was going to fail, how all his former collegues were looking for different jobs. I thought he was almost going to say something like, "Even CW is" like he said to me once before ~ as if invoking the reputation of his former affair partner is going to have some desired positive impact on me. *eyerolling*

So, on the whole, except for my two C's, I am feeling pretty good about where I'm at and what I'm doing. I'm up 5 pounds from the stress of it all, but I am maintaining my exercise, so that is something. I also know it will come off when the stress comes off. I have proven that to myself time and again.

Well, I best be off. I am going to go for a run, then go to the library at school and start a paper before my boys come home from school. I still owe them a movie, so maybe we'll do that today. Hope everyone is doing well out there! Stop in if you can stand to read so much and give me an update. ;-) Love you all!

Spidey

Wow Spidey, what a life! I don't know how you fit so much activity into your day. Glad to hear things are going so well ~ as for the C's, I took some upper level philosophy classes in college, also as a challenge, and they kicked my butt, too. I've also gained about 5 pounds recently because of stress eating, but I'm still exercising and hope to be able to get a grip soon ~ though the holidays makes that more difficult! My XH called and left a message for me at work last week to ask for niece's phone #. I gave her his new # but when she called, he had nothing to say, just wanted to know why I hadn't called... so, I suspect he's like your X, realizing what he's lost, which is considerable!

I'm starting a new business with a friend. I bought another house and barn to turn into an office and day program. Renovation is almost far enough along for us to move into the house/office and get started. LG, who I dated last year ~ the one who broke up with me to marry XGF ~ As for my current business, my best (gay) guy friend just moved here and is now working for me, at a considerable pay cut, but hoping to help me expand my current business(es) and a woman I know asked, through a friend, about a job and is now in a position where she'll ultimately be able to more or less run my business for me ~ my dream!!

My personal life isn't too exciting ~ I don't have men flocking around like you, LOL! I still occasionally go hiking with XBF ~ he's like your work friend, always the victim. I finally got tired of trying to convince him otherwise. I'm having Thanksgiving dinner with friends and going to niece's, like I did last year, for Christmas with her and her kids. Building should be starting soon on my new house which is very exciting but ungodly expensive! I got a new puppy to replace all my pets who've been eaten by coyotes in the past year ~ hopefully this little guy will have better luck than the last bunch! That's as sick as your divorce jokes, don't you think?

That's my update ~ much shorter than yours, but thought you might be interested. It's good to hear you sounding so positive!

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Renovation is almost far enough along for us to move into the house/office and get started. LG, who I dated last year ~ the one who broke up with me to marry XGF ~ As for my current business,

Question - where does LG fit into these two sentences? Is he your new business partner? You lost me.

Thanks for the sympathy with the C's. And the 5 pounds. I am working on finding better coping mechanisms - ones I can use that will serve me both in the moment and long-term.

Yeah, X hadn't seen me since my surgery (well, he saw me when I still had the drain tubes in! Blech - how're your you-knows doing, btw?) until Halloween. DS16 got a concussion at PE and X had a party starting at his house for the boys and needed me to relieve him at the ER until the doctor could read the scans. When I walked in, all dressed up to go out, he seemed a bit shocked.

I can't believe what a low self esteem I had for so long. I wonder how that was created. I know part of the reason I kept myself so heavy for so many years is because I was afraid I'd have an affair and ruin our M. My mother was permiscuous, and I was as well when I was young. Like, before I was 16, before I was 15 even. Good grief.

Then I think it was a series of years of beating myself down for being so....Not Me. And I can still feel myself unfolding out of that tight ball I had myself in for so long.

I don't have men flocking around me. Although roomie says when we go out I am a dude magnet. The last guy I went out to dinner with told me that if he didn't want people staring at me, he'd have gone out with someone not as pretty. ;-) There was a guy staring at me in a booth down the way from where we were sitting. He was pretty obvious about it, and it was distracting. The guy I was with said that I'm probably not normally paying attention, because he thinks men stare at me a lot more than I realize. I dunno. It is hard for me, because sometimes I feel like I am on stage, in a spotlight, because for so many years I was used to getting no attention, unless it was negative attention. So, I don't think I still have a good sense of myself and how I fit in the world around me. So, I might be swinging on the pendulum from thinking I was an ugly duckling, to now thinking I'm "all that," when in actuality it is probably somewhere in between. But that is OK. I'll get it all figured out eventually. I'm not in a race.

I hope you have fun with your friends on Turkey day. The boys and I usually go to my relatives' in another city about 4 hours away, but this year I have so much work to do for school I just couldn't take off and play for 4 days.

Good luck with the puppy. What kind is he?

Of course I'm interested in your update! I do sound pretty positive, don't I? It has taken a long time to get to positive. I still question everything, though. But maybe that shouldn't go away. Chat at you later, sweets!

An update on my update - I received my GRE results last night when I got home from work......I got what I needed for Grad school!!! Well, the one I am applying to, at least. ;-)

Yay!!! What a relief......

Congrats you!!



Loui

Yes, Congratulations on the GRE!!

What was I thinking when I wrote that about LG... must've been that he's putting the carpet in the office and while I still think he's pretty darned cute for an old guy like me, I'm over him, thank goodness. My new business is providing non-medical in-home companion care for the elderly, BTW.

I relate to you on the self-esteem. Sometimes I feel totally insignificant and other times I feel just too cute for my own good. I'm 56 remember and think it's pretty great anyone notices me anymore, LOL! I got asked out again by a guy I dated last year ~ the only guy I met during my brief stint at internet dating who seemed at all interesting. The sisters, as one of my guy friends refers to them, are doing well ~ thanks for asking. I still haven't gotten the tatooing, but probably will eventually.

Hope you have a wonderful turkey day!

More updates for me. One, the funniest part of my grad school application. Two, my roomie sitch.

School: After months of planning for this application process, getting people to write letters of recommendation, sending in checks, taking my GRE, jumping through hoops ~ guess what is holding me up with my final packet? Writing my personal statement (which I have had ready for a long time, all typed up and edited by two full professors) in my OWN HANDWRITING. I am on my 10th draft. I am not kidding. My handwriting is so poor, I have to go so slow, then my mind wanders and I write a word that isn't even in the freaking sentence!!! Good grief. It is hysterical, and cracking me up. Good thing the packet only has to be postmarked by February 15, 2008, for me to be considered!!!

Roomie: She has having her BF sleep over, while the boys are here. A couple weeks ago I had to talk to her about it. She was like, "I've never lived with kids before, I thought just a few times would be OK, I'm sorry it won't happen again...." But her BF has been over more and more and more. When she first moved in, she was with a guy in a different state, and he was going to Iraq. Seems like I've written this before, so if I'm giving double-info, sorry. Anyway, she broke up with him to date this guy here in our state, in our town. Well, he lives with his grandparents, and they don't approve of sleepovers. He is about 40. Don't ask, long story, and even though he is nice enough, I am suspicious that his personal life is so....adolescent. No checking account, beater car, no $$ apparently since he cannot afford to move out of the grandparents house, yes he has a job. Used to play pro football, supposedly has a Masters degree, yet runs some guys construction team out in the field......dunno. I am suspicious. But, roomie is "in love" and cannot help herself. She has been in love with 3 men since I've known her just over a year. So, while it is hard for me to take it too seriously, I respect that it feels very real for her.

So, the other morning, she comes home at 7 am after spending the night as his grandparents' house, and she brought him in with her! At 7 am. I hadn't taken DS15 to school yet, and we were both creeped out. I'm walking around my house, my hair sticking up, no bra on (sorry if that is TMI, but we should all feel comfortable in our own homes at 7 am!), and there is some dude sitting on my couch watching the snooze (for anyone who knows me, I avoid the news, i.e., snooze, because I think it is negative energy and commercialized and desensitized and sensationalized.....). The snooze!!!

So, another email went out. I do communicate about sensitive subjects when I am upset by as neutral means as possible, so I don't inadvertently harm anyone else or myself - I am a very passionate, emotional person, in case none of you picked up on that....

Basically, rather than continuing to tell her everything I DON'T want (taking my own advice), I told her exactly what is acceptable. I did tell her before she moved in that guys were not allowed when my kids were here, and she said it wouldn't be a problem, so we didn't talk about it much. But even if my kids weren't here, this is my home too, and I want to feel comfortable, and I just don't with him here all the time. Every night I come home from work he's here. Every other weekend he's here when I work and the boys are gone. And he's starting to be here more and more during the week. Staying until midnight. Coming in at 7 am. So, although I didn't specifically say Not to do those things, I feel it was in the Spirit of what I'd already talked about.

So, I got really clear. She is my roomate, not her and her BF. We all need to feel comfy here. BF can be here when I am not here and the boys are not here. If he picks her up for a date, he can come in. If he is dropping her off late, I would prefer he stays outside (because he'll come in and stay until midnight or 1 am - where do you draw the line of a sleepover? I am trying to set a good example for my boys, too....). And that if this arrangement didn't suit her anymore, I understood.

Well, the arrangement does not suit her anymore. And I am glad. This has been bothering me more than I was even letting on to myself, because I care about her and I want her to be happy. But the truth is, she isn't happy no matter how much I let go. She'll just want more and more, because over the past few months, I have watched this go from what I would consider a healthy R, to a co-dependent R. Neither does stuff independently with their friends anymore, neither does hobbies or passions. They just only want to be together. And she is sick all the time, lots of female problems. As soon as she gets healed, she'll have SF again and get sick again. Her face is broken out, her birth control is making her sick. He's sick all the time, in chronic neck pain, doesn't sleep, when he's not here texts her at all hours of the night telling her he's up....I don't get it. She claims he is good to her, etc. He's a nice guy, but his behaviors and life situation don't match up.

So, she's moving out. I am supporting her no matter what. I don't think she's going to be happy with this guy in 3 or 6 months living with him. He's got tons of drama going with his X, and $$ is involved, which already has roomie freaking out. I'm like, Good GRIEF!!!

The boys and I are going to get a pool table put in her room when she moves out. :-) I am very excited about that.

So, that is another update on me. Other than that, just writing papers, reading, studying, sometimes cramming....and trying to work off this 5 pounds that found its way onto my *ss while I wasn't paying attention.....*sigh* Lucky for me, what goes on will come off......

Spidey

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The boys and I are going to get a pool table put in her room when she moves out. :-) I am very excited about that.

ROFLMAO!

This is good. Pool tables are heavy and take up a lot of room - no chance that space will be mistaken for a spare bedroom again!

Congratulations on the GRE results!

Oh, and take it easy. Grad school can get pretty hectic if you let it. It can also be enjoyable if you make it.

best,
-ol' 2long

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This is good. Pool tables are heavy and take up a lot of room - no chance that space will be mistaken for a spare bedroom again!

At first I was like, "Why is 2long ROFLMAO??"

Then I read the above quote, and honestly, I hadn't seen it like that until you pointed it out! Talk about unconscious agendas. Yet, it rings 100% true for me. Like, a truth right in front of my face, and I could not see it. Yet now I'm like, "Well, of course that's what that is!"

So again, my heartfelt THANK YOU for stopping in and reading and giving me that unique 2long perspective.

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Oh, and take it easy. Grad school can get pretty hectic if you let it. It can also be enjoyable if you make it.

Oh, I forgot to thank you for this advice as well. I am looking forward to the change of pace that Grad school will offer - yet, I am also (I think) cautiously aware of ways it could bite me that I have not experienced yet in my current program.

THe cool thing about grad school is that you get 2 spend more of your time *thinking* and offering/getting feedback on your thoughts.

Far less rote memorization involved than as an undergrad.

When I really got in2 grad school, I was surprised when I realized that I wasn't nearly as free 2 think and explore as an undergrad as I had thought I had been.

Even when I had 2 take classes 2 make up shortfals during my MS program, I enjoyed myself. And my PhD program was great, though a lot of other folks I know didn't have it so good. I sort of lucked in2 a change in advisors from a guy who was my age and still had a lot 2 "prove" - such that his "best" students pretty much followed a narrow path of *his* choosing - 2 an older guy who literally said 2 me "You knew what you wanted 2 do coming here. That's 3/4 of the battle." I was his 100th grad student.

-ol' 2long

-ol' 2long

Wow, I just had a face-to-face with X about all the business we have let build up that needed to be discussed (holiday work schedules with the boys, travel coverage for the boys, holiday presents for the boys, driver's training decisions, what each of us wants our kids to get us...) - and it was good.

It was good because we didn't fight, we talked calmly and with respect to each other, we joked around appropriately, we worked together to find the best solutions for the Boys and Ourselves.

I felt no longing for him, for our past, for what used to be. It was a calm acceptance of what Is. And being peaceful about it.

Wow, tonight I had a glimpse of how it can be for us in the future as happy and effective co-parents.

Something else I realized this morning about my face-to-face with X last night ~ he is still miffed about something that happened last Christmas. Like, he remembers some specific stuff that he still has afflictive emotions about. I don't really remember anything specific about last year. The only thing I really have in my head about that time was my perception that he wanted as much alone time with CW as possible. Not that he was particularly wanting to spend time with our boys.

He kept saying last night, "But this was supposed to be MY year." I'm like, "Your year? You saw them on Xmas last year..."

He said he isn't trying to be an *sshole, and I believe him. We agreed to just see how it plays out, and that the boys will be spending Xmas Eve with him, as in the D documents. But we'll split up Xmas for mutual benefit. I told him I didn't remember anything from last year, and he said he understood that, that it was something he needed to let go of. So, I thought that went well.

I sent in my Counseling Department Application packet yesterday afternoon before going to work! Now I just wait and see.........................

Send positive thoughts/prayers my way..........

Okay, everyone, last night I sent out an email to roomie. Basically, I am done. I told her she can stay until the end of the month, I will store stuff for her for another month after that, and until she moves out, I don't want to see her BF again.

This is my home. I was laying here in bed last night, while He (with her sleeping with her head on his lap) was watching my TV in my living room. I wanted to sleep. But the whole thing is just under my skin. The last she said was she was moving out ASAP and I wouldn't see BF again. Well, two nights later, he was back. So, I don't know if her ASAP moving date changed as well. I am getting a picture that they are both pretty comfortable living here 1/2 time because I have allowed it.

So, I am not allowing it. I love her, but when I am kind and generous with her, she seems to take it for aquiescence and that is not what it is. I was hoping she'd make these decisions on her own, but clearly she isn't, and that isn't working for me. So I blatently said it all, just as I've said here. No cushioning it, no candy coating.....

One thing this semester-from-hell has done is take out of me, at least for the time being, my people-pleasing niceness. This has played out in other R's recently, too. I'm thinking it is good. Be able to just say what you want, what you expect? Maybe it's too rough right now, but you gotta start somewhere.

Yes.

As you know, kindness and nice are not the same thing. Though kindness can be nice, it can also be stern.

Be prepared for the 'victim' going in2 attack mode. I hope it doesn't happen, but it might.

best,
-ol' 2long

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As you know, kindness and nice are not the same thing. Though kindness can be nice, it can also be stern.

Gee, 2long, you're practically channeling P there. And I heartily agree. It'll be interesting to see whether the new parenting coordinator wannabe gets the difference. She told me and my ex that she's going to "push us to always do the nice thing" when we have decisions to make. My hair stood straight up.


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Well, I hope it all works out for you, J.

Everything seems to be working out for me. Except me being able to get my final assignments done. It's aweful, like a malfunction! Oh well.

I at least have taken off all but 3 pounds I gained over the past few months. Good grief. A total of 8 pounds. Real pounds. Yuck.

Roomie is moving out. She took it pretty hard, plus I accidentally sent her either a text or email that I meant to send to someone else. So, she perceived me being meaner than I actually was....oh well. At least there are no more misunderstandings. I don't want her here with her boyfriend. She has clearly chosen the boyfriend. So, she has to go. Plus, I am ready to be on my own, anyway. And the whole thing is getting resolved quickly and with very little drama. Yay for both of us.

I just have to make it to my last final next Thursday, the 20th.......

Good luck on your final, Spidey, and congratulations on reclaiming your home and shedding 5 pounds ~ if my math is correct . I've gained about the same over the past month or two and I'm starting to freak 'cause my pants are all too tight... how'd you do it?

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how'd you do it?

Oh, the usual - eating less than I burn in a day, and climbing on that elliptical trainer at the gym 3 or 4 or 5 days a week.

I wish it was by magic!!! ;-) It is nice being able to fit comfortably in all my pants again. When I was bigger, 5 pounds was not so noticeable, but now 5 pounds changes the way my pants fit, which changes the way they look....5 pounds now is a lot! Good grief.