A - Affair
BP - Betrayed Partner
BS - Betrayed Spouse
BTDT - Been There Done That
BTW - By The Way
CP - Committed Partner
EA - Emotional Affair
FCOL - For Crying Out Loud
FIL - Father In Law
FOO - Family Of Origin
GTG - Got To Go
H - Husband
IC - Individual Counselor/Coach
IMHO - In My Humble Opinion
IMO - In My Opinion
IMNSHO - In My Not-So Humble Opinion
IP - Intervention Phase
JMHO - Just My Humble Opinion
LOL - Laughing Out Loud
LSD - Live-in Step-Daughter
LSS - Live-in Step-Son
M - Marriage
MC - Marriage Counselor/Coach
MIL - Mother In Law
MLC - Mid-life Crisis
MM - Married Man
MW - Married Woman
OM - Other Man
OP - Other Person
OW - Other Woman
PA - Physical Affair
PP - Protection Phase
ROFLMAO - Rolling on the Floor Laughing My *Rump* Off
SAHD - Stay At Home Dad
SAHM - Stay At Home Mom
SD - Step-Daughter
SO - Significant Other
SP - Straying Partner
SS - Step-Son
TH - Transparent Honesty
W - Wife
WH - Wayward Husband
WP - Wayward Partner
WW - Wayward Wife
YDU - You Don't Understand

D-day - the date that an affair was discovered

[This message was edited by *Tak* SYMC on Tue March 30 2004 at 06:40 PM.]

in my personal case, I will be making frequent referneces to my step-children.

so
would it be possible to add

SD=step-daughter
SS=step-son

oooo wait wait

my SD and two SSs are in my H's and my custody
so
Can we add, because it is such a nuicance to continually write live-in Step-daughter and live-in step son

LSD= live-in step-daughter
LSS= live-in step-son

Gosh , I love these new and improve greamlins

me-42 yr o
H (WS)-46 yr o
met-feb 2001
M 06-23-01
BabyLuv born 01-24-02

absolute affairs (EA and/or PA) to date-3
two of these are reoccurring for the past three years, one of which is w/ X-W

susupected other affiars- 2

I may have been one of the OW, the one that got pregnant.

[This message was edited by *hypatia on Fri March 05 2004 at 07:54 AM.]

TA - Transparent Honesty

would you please explain this one?
thanks

me-42 yr o
H (WS)-46 yr o
met-feb 2001
M 06-23-01
BabyLuv born 01-24-02

absolute affairs (EA and/or PA) to date-3
two of these are reoccurring for the past three years, one of which is w/ X-W

susupected other affiars- 2

I may have been one of the OW, the one that got pregnant.

Transparent Honesty is the SYMC term for the same concept as MB's Radical Honesty.

____________________________
met 6-2-99, engaged 6-2-00, married 6-2-01, H moves out 3-26-02, H moves home 5-27-02, Recovered

The significant problems we face can not be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them. - Albert Einstein

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting to get a different result. Persistence is great, but you must persist with something that works.

Great spirits have always found violent opposition from mediocrities. The latter cannot understand it when a man does not thoughtlessly submit to hereditary prejudices but honestly and courageously uses his intelligence. - Albert Einstein

It isn't what is done to us that defines us, it is how we respond to it. - Takola

TA - Transparent Honesty

Wouldn't that be TH?

BTW, I love this term!

Regina
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reginasymc@aol.com

Live today to its fullest because it's the foundation for tomorrow...and it's all you've got. ~Regina

Uh-oh! Typo! Typo! Fixing now.

____________________________
met 6-2-99, engaged 6-2-00, married 6-2-01, H moves out 3-26-02, H moves home 5-27-02, Recovered

The significant problems we face can not be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them. - Albert Einstein

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting to get a different result. Persistence is great, but you must persist with something that works.

Great spirits have always found violent opposition from mediocrities. The latter cannot understand it when a man does not thoughtlessly submit to hereditary prejudices but honestly and courageously uses his intelligence. - Albert Einstein

It isn't what is done to us that defines us, it is how we respond to it. - Takola

quote:

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Gosh , I love these new and improve greamlins

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Thanks, I spent a lot of time finding these and adding them to the board.

____________________________
met 6-2-99, engaged 6-2-00, married 6-2-01, H moves out 3-26-02, H moves home 5-27-02, Recovered

The significant problems we face can not be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them. - Albert Einstein

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting to get a different result. Persistence is great, but you must persist with something that works.

Great spirits have always found violent opposition from mediocrities. The latter cannot understand it when a man does not thoughtlessly submit to hereditary prejudices but honestly and courageously uses his intelligence. - Albert Einstein

It isn't what is done to us that defines us, it is how we respond to it. - Takola

Now, how would we indicate bio-daughter and bio-son?

me-42 yr o
H (WS)-46 yr o
met-feb 2001
M 06-23-01
BabyLuv born 01-24-02

absolute affairs (EA and/or PA) to date-3
two of these are reoccurring for the past three years, one of which is w/ X-W

susupected other affiars- 2

I may have been one of the OW, the one that got pregnant.

I like this cool guy better than the one we had.

____________________________
met 6-2-99, engaged 6-2-00, married 6-2-01, H moves out 3-26-02, H moves home 5-27-02, Recovered

The significant problems we face can not be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them. - Albert Einstein

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting to get a different result. Persistence is great, but you must persist with something that works.

Great spirits have always found violent opposition from mediocrities. The latter cannot understand it when a man does not thoughtlessly submit to hereditary prejudices but honestly and courageously uses his intelligence. - Albert Einstein

It isn't what is done to us that defines us, it is how we respond to it. - Takola

Carol,

I like the *eek* too, but I think his hair should curl in and out with the eye bulges.

Regina
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
reginasymc@aol.com

Live today to its fullest because it's the foundation for tomorrow...and it's all you've got. ~Regina

FCOL - For Crying Out Loud

Seldom used but not to be mistaken for "fool"...and certainly not a DJ.

D - Daughter
S - Son

MB used DD and DS.
or Bio BD and BS. (BS?)

TA - kinder genter terminology for radical honesty. But beyond that there is a depth to it that I think radical honesty does not address. To me, radical seems somehow to be "in your face" and aggressive. Transparent is a way of living that is open and authentic. There it is again - the New Age background popping up.

P

It Takes A Village To Save A Marriage

ooo Penny, I agree w/ you whole heartedly on that last thought about honesty in general.

Radical IS such an in-your-face- term. It almost sounds rebelious.

Transparent is so much more gentler.

me-42 yr o
H (WS)-46 yr o
met-feb 2001
M 06-23-01
BabyLuv born 01-24-02

absolute affairs (EA and/or PA) to date-3
two of these are reoccurring for the past three years, one of which is w/ X-W

susupected other affiars- 2

I may have been one of the OW, the one that got pregnant.

Oh - one more thing. You can use whatever you like for acronyms but I personally prefer BP (betrayed parner) and WP or SP (wayward/straying parnter) better than BS or WS. Just my thing - take or leave as you like.

P

It Takes A Village To Save A Marriage

yah,
BS always seemed too much like bullsh*t to me.
seriously
I personally do not like to be thought of as BS.

me-42 yr o
H (WS)-46 yr o
met-feb 2001
M 06-23-01
BabyLuv born 01-24-02

absolute affairs (EA and/or PA) to date-3
two of these are reoccurring for the past three years, one of which is w/ X-W

susupected other affiars- 2

I may have been one of the OW, the one that got pregnant.

Betrayed is an ugly term albeit somewhat appropriate.

How about LS (loyal spouse) and DLS (disloyal spouse)...or LP and DLP respectively?

I have always thought BS had a bit more to do with Bullcrap than anything else.

Any thoughts on the Loyal Spouse vs. The Disloyal Spouse?

I think Disloyal has a negative connotation as opposed to Wayward. I think I like "partner" better than spouse. Besides the fact that not all people with a problem are legally married, it also tends to evoke the idea of equality and cooperation.
____________________________
met 6-2-99, engaged 6-2-00, married 6-2-01, H moves out 3-26-02, H moves home 5-27-02, Recovered

The significant problems we face can not be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them. - Albert Einstein

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting to get a different result. Persistence is great, but you must persist with something that works.

Great spirits have always found violent opposition from mediocrities. The latter cannot understand it when a man does not thoughtlessly submit to hereditary prejudices but honestly and courageously uses his intelligence. - Albert Einstein

It isn't what is done to us that defines us, it is how we respond to it. - Takola

OK, here's my two cents' worth.

I know we are not a spin-off of the MB board or any other board, for that matter...

However, many individuals hop from one board to another, and it seems to me that if we have totally different acronyms than other boards, and we have to educate people when they come here, the attendance and participation will suffer.

Better, IMHO, to have some consistencies so that a transition to the SYMC board - from any other marriage/infidelity board - is easy for them and they feel comfortable here immediately.

So...if they are using BS/WS (for example) on other boards, I think it is in our best interest not to reinvent the wheel.

As I said, just my 2 cents.

Volunteer Coordinator
sharonsymc@aol.com

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I know we are not a spin-off of the MB board or any other board, for that matter...

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Actually, this IS a spin-off of MB and similar boards. If you really want this website to stand apart from the others then IMO it's best not to copy bad habits simply because they worked someplace else.

I agree that there is no sense in re-inventing the wheel but you (SYMC) can certainly improve upon it. Hence wagon wheels vs. steel belted radials.

This website could actually blaze a new trail and set an example for other websites to follow...or it could be just like all the rest. As site builders and moderators, you actually get to steer the website in the direction of your choice. How cool!

If you accept what many in the field have published regarding the pain of an affair to the innocent spouse then it should not be minimized.

Dr. Harley, Shirley Glass, Peggy Vaughn and others compare it to being sexually assaulted or having a close loved one die unexpectedly.

Most betrayed spouses suffer terrible emotional trauma some are often treated for Post Traumatic Stres Syndrome.

Words have powerful meanings behind them. Saying someone was loyal or uninvolved instead of being betrayed implies that it is like a victimless crime.