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Originally posted by Just J_SYMC:

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We are tryiing to

We, or you? Either way, I have this sneaking suspicion that there's more going on here than either of you is willing to say here.

What do you think is going on because I would like to know?

Nothing dramatic, Will. I just believe that both of you have been so defensive to each other that you've lost the ability to listen compassionately to one another, and the ability to think clearly about what you're going to do next. The fact that StuckInAMess was talking about divorce and then went back on it indicates that y'all are on quite a roller coaster. Situations that are this chaotic are almost impossible to figure out from afar.

J~ your first post almost sounds like you are trying to insinuate that I am in contact with OM. That's how dh and I both took it. I hope that's not the case. Even during all of this turmoil I have been completely open. I have not changed any passwords and he has complete access to everything.

Now, after reading what your responded to dh about defensive and compassion. I agree with you. I have told him, I love him. However, I do believe there is way too much hurt and anger for both of us to get past this.

Unfortunately, this is not even a safe place for me to post anymore. I don't want to say too much more.