Here's a lovely, concise, article about Helen Fishers' and others' work --- saying exactly what we have for the last four of five years .

This quote is worthy of note: "What do you do if you’re rejected [P's note: or need to end it!!!]? Use the 12-step program that alcoholics and other addicts use, Fisher advises. Throw away the cards and letters, don’t write, don’t call and don’t try to be “just friends.”"