I am sorry. Just forget it and thank you for your time. Good bye

[This message was edited by Lost Hearts on Tue March 30 2004 at 05:27 PM.]

I understand that you need to vent; however, we also have to avoid calling anyone derogatory names on this board.

Tell me why you continue to do the same thing that hasn't worked when it hurts you so?

Have you looked seriously at Protection Phase?

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The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting to get a different result. Persistence is great, but you must persist with something that works.

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It isn't what is done to us that defines us, it is how we respond to it. - Takola

LH,

Hi Sweetie, I missed your post, but I can gather that it was emotion-packed and you needed to get it off your chest. We totally understand.

Don't be upset. Look at it this way. Penny has promised all posters, all members, that this will alwaysbe a safe place...a place full of respect. Yes, others have put us in horrible, horrible places. But isn't it nice to know that there is a place like this that you can come to that will always be free of profanity, free of vulgar names, but will support you totally?

I personally think that's pretty special.

Don't leave us, Lost Hearts. I know you may be angry right now, but come on back and give us a chance. You know me. I would not be here if I didn't believe in it strongly. I know the folks here can help you.

B-I-G HUGS!

{{{{LOST HEARTS}}}}

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Truthfully, I go to another site when I need to vent the way I NEED to vent, so that I do not do it in my "real" life. I have to hold it in all day, at work, with my kids, and even with family and friends.
For me, venting means, letting out the "ugly" stuff!
Here, I do nicey nice, but it's not the real me.
That's ok. I can do the split personality thing. It's probably good training should, WH ever get his "butt" home! YOu know, screaming on the inside, smiling on the outside! Using nice feeling words...and saving the crap for that other place.
I'll do whatever it takes, and whatever is expected of me. Oh yeah, I did that and that's how I ended up here in the first place!

Ok, so that's my vent. Was it ok & Sorry to thread jack.
Lost,Really hope you're ok. e-mail me!

There's a difference, I think, between holding it all in (not very healthy) and respectfully venting (healthy).

As an example from my own life, WP is frustrating me immensely in a negotiation we're having right now. I can express that in two ways:

"WP is a complete, utter, incompetent freaking CREEP!"

(Not respectful.) Or I can say,

"I am SOOOOO FURIOUS!!! I have tried my darndest to be calm, rational, and easygoing in the negotiations, and WP REFUSES TO EVEN MAKE A COUNTERPROPOSAL! THIS IS MAKING ME COMPLETELY INSANE."

(Generally respectful.)

So yes, please, do express YOUR frustration, anger, hurts, and all those other things. But make it about how you feel about your WP's actions, rather than about what you think of him or her.

And yes, I really am frustrated. Sigh.