I have been reading about the Cook/(Christie)Brinkley trial. I think we all know the story, he hooks up with his 19 YEAR OLD assistant. Hmmm...sounds kinda familiar to me...

Anyhow, it's been two years and the trial is going on now. I've been reading about the horror she felt, the pain, the grief. Her friend finding her on the side of the road on her hands and knees unable to move she was so overwhelmed. Been there done that. Although not on the side of the road, but in the yard at one point.

She took the stand to testify. She was devastated during her testimony. I felt so bad for her, for as we all know, reliving this nightmare we find ourselves in, can be so very hard to talk about.

Here is the comment from Mr Cooks attorney:

Cook's lawyer Norman Sheresky was also dismissive of Brinkley's testimony. "I think her performance was a performance," Sheresky said during the trial's lunch break. "She's a good actress. It's been two years. She should be past this by now."

SHE SHOULD BE PAST THIS NOW?!?!?! I was like...WTF? Man oh man...did that comment ever make me clinch my teeth and see red...I don't think if I live to be 100, I'll ever get past this. I will move on I'm sure, but get past it...I don't think so.

I feel really bad for this woman and her kids. It's bad enough to have to go through this in private...

What is it about the devastation of infidelity, that people just don't seem to get, unless they are a member of this club, that no offense folks, but I REALLY wish I wasn't a member..

Well, honestly, even if Mr. Cook's attorney doesn't think she should be past this by now, Mr. Cook's attorney is going to SAY she should be past this by now, to indicate his client didn't cause much harm, isn't culpable, isn't LIABLE. Or at least not AS liable, for as much.

This is one prime example of why I do not concern myself with the World, with the news. Even not watching directly, little bits and pieces trickle down to me. I hear the BIG stuff, the earthquakes, the Senators tapping their feet in the bathroom stalls, tsunamis....

Getting upset about what Mr. Cook's attorney ~ what is that going to do for me? And by getting upset, I mean just by listening to the goings-on. There are tons of people out there that think that way. It is not the way I think, nor the way I choose to live my life or represent myself in the world.

I keep my energy focused on what I do find desirable in the world, not using my energy to rail against the injustices. By living my life in a different energy pattern, I contribute to changing the energy pattern of the world. I truly do believe that it all starts and ends with me as far as making a difference in this world. Not by trying to change someone else's behavior or beliefs.

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I know that Spidey. Just as a person, going through this same thing, I feel her pain and devastation.

It just really aggravates me that people don't take this more seriously. Like P says, the tabloids etc, tend to glamorize adultery. It's darn sickening if you ask me.

It's like, oh yea, you had an affair, you will divorce, your spouse will get over it and move on. Well, move on I'm sure, but is it a hurt you ever REALLY get over? I think you will take it with you forever in some way.

It just seems to me that when someone says, oh, it's been two years, you should be over that by now...and it's being publicized, the general population will think, yea, she should be over it by now. Then again shedding that "light" that it's okay to do what he did. Yea, it caused a divorce and trauma for the kids and such, but it's been two year now...GET OVER IT. It once again gives the illusion that adultery is just fine to do...have at it. Because the ones who were hurt by it will get over it in a certain time frame.

I understand what you are saying, Sandy. The truth is, people have affairs. The get divorced and they move on.

Us who are left behind have two choices: stay stuck, or move on (i.e., get over it).

Do we ever get over it? Perhaps not. I am still not over completely the trauma of the birth of DS16 that I experienced. I am still not over completely the trauma of being morbidly obese during the formative years of my life. I did get over X having a ONS with a prostitute in Korea. I have forgiven my former best friend for her part in X's first A. I am still not "over" either of X's affairs, and I am still far from being over my afflictive emotions for CW (AP #2). I have faith, however, that given enough time I will "get over" all of it. The alternative is unacceptable for me.

All of these experiences, however, have all worked together to form who I am today. For that, I cannot regret any of it.

I agree Sandy about the 'over this' comments. Seems like it must be spoken by someone who hasn't been through it. Although I guess I also agree with spidey's point in that a lawyer will probably say what they need to, not necessarily what's true or they feel.
I am curious as to why the whole thing was public. I heard she had the choice for it to be closed to the public and refused. I guess an outsider can only speculate, but I guess I can't feel sorry for her for having to go through it in public, because for whatever reason (maybe it helps her case?) she seems to have chosen that.
Who knows. I'm still jealous of her for having so many cool songs written for her!

Well Sandy.. my opinion for what its worth...I would not take anything said in a tabloid or by a celebrity lawyer in a personal way.

First, hopefully, one does get past huge upheavals and trauma's eventually. Though there is no time limitations for doing so. If one cannot "get past" it ever..that is a choice that one makes and not necessarily a healthy one. Getting past is not the same as forgetting. And it certainly is not the same as learning from. It's more a matter of letting go the negative feelings associated with the trauma.

And truly.. this is her 4th husband...and in that case the common factor in that is her. So what is going on within her that needs to be dealt with... and for what its worth.. she left Billy Joel after having an affair with the pilot of the helicopter that crashed with her on it, if I recall.

What I think about Christi Brinkley is she's got some work to do on Christi Brinkley. What I think about her 4th husband, is he does to. And what I think about that lawyer is ... well he'll say and do whatever it takes to win. Regardless of how uncompassionate his views are.

Now as Spidey says, of course the opposing attorney is going to say that to her. He is, after all.. not on her side at all. Besides.. people like Christi Brinkley... that world that they revolve in is soooo NOT the world most of us live in. I applaud any actor, actress and successful famous person who is able to keep their heads in a reasonably real place when it comes to healthy relationship. Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward come to mind. That kind of marriage is very rare in the super rich, super exposed world that is hollywood.

Loui

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she left Billy Joel after having an affair with the pilot of the helicopter that crashed with her on it, if I recall.

Actually it was another passenger, that she became pregnant by and married. Then she divorced him when she found out he didn't have as many millions as he had led her to believe, and she paid him two million to go away and forfeit his visitation rights.

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I applaud any actor, actress and successful famous person who is able to keep their heads in a reasonably real place when it comes to healthy relationship. Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward come to mind. That kind of marriage is very rare in the super rich, super exposed world that is hollywood.

And even they, and the other's who tend to stay out of the tabloid, had divorce in their past. Maybe the first is the toughest?

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Maybe the first is the toughest?

I would agree that it is.. and I think the true test of whether you learned from your past is if you do have a second relationship and/or marriage, that you don't repeat the behaviors and/or choices that led you to it the first time around. And if the divorce were not of your doing, that you work on your behaviors and core hurts & values before the next big thing rolls around.

Loui

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and I think the true test of whether you learned from your past is if you do have a second relationship and/or marriage, that you don't repeat the behaviors and/or choices that led you to it the first time around. And if the divorce were not of your doing, that you work on your behaviors and core hurts & values before the next big thing rolls around.

So far, so good!

I've turned the tv off now that Madonna and the baseball guy have joined the bandwagon.

I have enough problems here with a little girl who won't sleep in her own bed because she says she has to take Daddy's spot because she and her mommy need each other and who cries at night for her dad and when she shares that with him, she's met with silence, or so she tells me.

And I will go on wondering why in the world people inflict this kind of pain on their children. It's tragic. Simply tragic. Wondering how to answer my child when she says, I want to get married someday and have kids, but what if my husband leaves me like Daddy left us?

We need a thread on kids and infidelity. Solely to get information to people when their kids start having the same issues that DD7 had and is still having.